Keeping a long distance relationship healthy in between the visits is hard. I’m not exactly sure how we’ve been doing this for 2 years, and how we keep wanting to do it for the next 3 months. Apart, you are more apt to miscommunication, arguments, fear, doubt, insecurity…. you catch my drift. Now this is true with all long-distance relationships, add in the fact that he is German and I am not, and this gets different. Here is one thing that foreigners and even some Americans don’t understand- there are many different kinds of Americans.
There are Southerners, Mid-Westerners, Westerners, and Northerners. I am a Northerner, and worse yet, a New-Englander. Yes in the end we are all Americans, but most of you know that the differences are substantial. New-Englanders are colder, we don’t go around hugging people or saying hello to everyone, we aren’t known as the kindest people at all. We are very loyal people, however it takes a long time for us to know, accept, and befriend you. When you ask us where we are from we say our state or our main city, never our town; many jokes have been made that New Englanders act as if we are in part of the witness protection program. We have our own slang, and we generally believe we are superior to most people, especially the Southerners whom we poke fun at in our evening news.
Now when foreigners meet you for the first time, they don’t seem to understand these differences, we are after all just Americans; overweight, greasy-food eating, loud, big hair, quite daft, and prone to smiling too often. This may be the case in some places and with some people, but I think the same goes for any country in the world.
My German seems to think I’m less American than most Americans, which I don’t think is fair to say. However, in Ireland most Irish were surprised I was American as well. Which leads me to think that American stereotypes are what most foreigners believe to be true. When I said oh I’m from Boston in Ireland, I had more than a few Irish people say, ahhh so you’re Irish? This is acceptable considering Boston is a predominant Irish city and yes, my Mother was Irish. Although being half black, it’s a funny conclusion to jump to.
I’m as American as every other American, but I grew up in New England, and although I don’t seem like a stereotypical American, most people need to understand that there is no such thing as one type of American. That is all I’m saying.